Mutual masturbation is the art of two (or more) people stimulating themselves while surrounded by others. It’s not widely discussed, so we thought we would mention it today, but it does hold a lot of benefits that can help with communication intimacy, and it can just be something new and fun to try.
Solo masturbation is one of many people’s favorite things to do, so why not share it with others?
We will discuss the subject in more depth and determine whether it’s worth trying for you and your relationship.
What exactly is mutual masturbation?
It’s the act of pleasuring yourself while being given your partner, and they are also touching themselves at the same time. People generally find it arousing when they see or hear others having sex (that’s why we like PornTotal). When the other person is there in front of you and not on a screen, you essentially give each other a private show. You also get all the extra sound effects.
This could also be something that ends up being your favorite part of foreplay.
The Benefits Of Mutual Masturbation
1. You Learn About Each Others Bodies
You will be surprised by what you learn by watching your partner masturbate and learn a lot about the other’s bodies. It’s an excellent way to see what brings them the most pleasure and learn about their likes and dislikes, which can only help improve your sexual compatibility.
2. Its “Safe” Sex
Think about it. This eliminates the risk of catching sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and any unwanted pregnancies. If this is one of your concerns, then this could be something that you should try.
3. It shows Off Your Technique
People are most likely to climax when they masturbate. That’s just a fact. Not everyone orgasms with other forms of sex. When your partner gets to watch you, then learn your technique (that you have likely done 100’s of times before), which might make them realise, “Oh, they like slower than how I go”. Surely that’s a win? Right?
4. Increased Intimacy
Watching your partner masturbate can be a real turn-on. This can only bring you closer together and strengthen you as a couple.
5. There Is Less Pressure
Some people find it hard to have traditional intercourse as it comes with a lot of pressure to be able to perform. Mutual masturbation makes it easier for those who struggle with this as you can relax more and enjoy the experience.
6. Fantasies
This could have been your partner’s fantasy for a long time, and they are finally getting to try it out. It could also be something that you had no idea you liked. It’s a great way to introduce something new to your relationship without risk.
7. Faster Than Intercourse
Mutual masturbation can be faster than full-on intercourse. If you both had a hard day at work but want something quick to get you both off, this could be the answer. You will also be guaranteed a better night’s sleep after it.
How Can You Get Started?
It can be daunting, and the chances are your partner will feel the same as well, but it will differ for everyone. Here are a few ideas that we recommend to get started:
- Take it slowly; what’s the rush?
- You could start by kissing just to get the mood going
- Take each other’s hands and touch each other while you stimulate each other
- Take it in turns. Let one go while the other one watches
- Think about how you want to position yourself. Side by side? In front of each other? Is it close enough to almost touch or far away to tease?
How To Make It Even Better
1. Toys
There’s a reason sex toys are so popular, and it’s because they are fun and add extra pleasure to sexual situations. Watching your partner pleasure herself is fun, but what if she’s got a toy that helps her reach her perfect spot more, that then makes her moan more, that in return turns you on even more?
2. Add In Some Porn
If you are worried about your partner watching you all the time, then you could try adding some porn to the mix. There are plenty of websites out there now with all different porn categories. Put something on that you are both into and sometimes even the sound of porn can help.
3. An Erotic Audio Book
Not everyone likes porn, so maybe try an erotic audiobook? There are some great ones out there, and I’m sure you can find one you both like.
4. Dress Up
Dressing up is fun for any kind of sex, but getting your partner to dress up into something new or a favorite outfit is always good. They could always give you a little striptease beforehand as well. Or you might want them just to leave the hat and boots on? Whatever floats your boat.
Addressing Concerns
What if one of you is uncomfortable?
There is a chance this could happen, and it’s important to respect their feelings and not force them into taking part. Communication is key when it comes to sex, and there might be another way that’s better suited to explore something new.
What if it didn’t go according to plan the first time?
The chances are it won’t go perfectly the first time, as not many things in life do. Give it a few goes to find out if it’s for you.
Final Thoughts
Mutual Masturbation is fun and something that shouldn’t be thought of as being weird. We hope this article has helped break down some of the stigma that comes with it. Give it a go. What’s the worst thing that can happen? You discover it’s not for you and move on to something else.
Let us know how you get on in the comments below.