People with sexual fetishes get more excited through certain clothes, objects, or specific situations
Sexual fantasies come in many forms and most of them are related to fetishes. If you have them, you might not be a boring sex partner, and the most important thing is to satisfy yourself better by recognizing your fetish. But what is a fetish?
Maybe you have asked yourself this question more than once when you have heard about sexual fetishes. According to the dictionary, its literal meaning would be the exaggerated admiration towards a person or a thing that is granted extraordinary virtues. But if we extrapolate it to sex, fetishism refers to the sexual fantasies or games that are put into practice in the intimacy of a couple.
Stimulating erogenous zones such as the genitals, buttocks or neck is usually one of the most valued practices in the sexual field, but there are other less conventional ways of getting excited during sexual activity. Sexual fetishes, also known as paraphilias, can be related to clothing, leather objects, high heels, or a specific part of the human body.
It was the psychologist Sigmund Freud who created the concept of sexual fetishism as a paraphilia or frequent presence in some sexual fantasy and he defined it as a sexual stimulus that provokes desire. The person who has a fetish is excited by the touch of these objects or even by the mere fact of observing or feeling them. They increase pleasure and in some cases are necessary to reach excitement or climax in some people.
These are more extreme cases, but the most common is that they are fetishes that simply entertain or make you feel faster or greater stimulation, without going further or being essential to maintain satisfactory sexual relations.
Although for many the word fetish can be somewhat intimidating, the truth is that it is more common than we imagine and is totally harmless if it is used as a practice to improve the sexual experience and both parties, obviously, agree. The fear of rejection or another person’s reaction is something that can work against us, but it is important to remember that, in sex, communication is essential.
There are people who are excited by specific parts of the other person’s body, such as breasts or feet (one of the most common), and others, for example, love to see their partner wearing lingerie of a certain color or with stiletto heels when starting the sexual game. We don’t know what our or our partner’s fetishes really are if we don’t explore all fetishes.
The most common sexual fetishes
1-Sex toys
It is a way to have ‘extra’ fun when having sex. Given the great variety of offers that exist on the market (size, shape, color, functionality…), the first thing to do is to know what gives you pleasure or, if you have a partner, what gives your partner pleasure.
We should not look for the sex toy that is in fashion or the best-selling toy at the moment, but rather the one that improves the connection with your body and your sensations when having sex. If you are going to use it as a couple, it is essential that both parties know that it is a free and personal decision and that they are always in agreement.
2- The secret is in the clothes
Here we are referring to dressing in lace lingerie, of a certain color (normally red or black) or in costumes of various kinds. Normally, the person does not take off that underwear during sexual relations in order to become more aroused both themselves and the other members of the couple. It is one of the most frequent sexual fantasies and is most often carried out in private. In addition, leather and latex clothing are the most frequent when it comes to getting excited.
3-Altocalciphilia
Among the most popular fetishes, altocalciphilia stands out, the sexual arousal by women’s footwear. Many people can reach orgasm without the other person taking off their shoes (usually high heels) during the duration of sexual intercourse. Feet is also a common fetish. For many people, seeing well-groomed and soft feet is very exciting.
4-Autoandrophilia
Similar to the previous one, this fantasy refers to when a woman feels pleasure when dressing in men’s clothing during foreplay and sexual intercourse. It implies a role of domination on the part of that person.
5-Stigmatophilia
Wearing tattoos is the order of the day and is usually nothing more than an aesthetic gesture, fashion, or something that has a personal meaning for the tattooed person. But there is a type of fantasy that people get more excited about if they are with another individual who has a tattoo or several on their body.
There are also people who get very excited by piercings on their lips, tongue, navel, and nipples. Just looking at them can stimulate them and also the cold sensation they can feel when touching them with some part of the body causes that ‘extra’ excitement.
6-Trichophilia
Hair has always been a symbol of sensuality, both feminine and masculine. And this is something that hair fetishists follow to the letter. These people achieve intense excitement when they caress other people’s hair. But not all are the same, since those who have this type of fetish do not follow a specific pattern, it depends on the color, the haircut, or even the hairstyle. Although trichophilia is satisfied by physical contact with hair, climax can also be achieved by watching someone else get their hair cut.
7-Claustrophilia
You’ve probably heard of claustrophobia, which is the fear that some people feel of closed spaces and which can cause significant mental health problems. In this case, we’re talking about the opposite. Elevators, changing rooms in a store, or the bathroom of an airplane are the places that most excite people who enjoy sex in small spaces. Normally, people are terrified of closed spaces, but in this type of fetish, the exciting thing is staying in them.
Bottom Line
Does your fetish fall under any of the seven above? If not you can tell us, maybe we’ll give you a little clue about what fetish you actually have. One thing is for sure, recognizing your fetish can help you indulge your sexual fantasies and of course, it will ignite your sex drive even more.