Excessive masculinity, the imposed need to dominate, emotional restraint – all this makes men suppress their sexual desires.
Tenderness
Gentle, slow sex is what each of us needs from time to time. However, if women are comfortable admitting that they would like more delicate contact, then for men it can be a real challenge.
- The culprit is the culture of imposed masculinity, which for centuries has attributed aggressive, aggressive sexual behavior to men.
- In addition, popular culture also lacks the representation of gentle sex. Most often in the movies we see scenes of passionate, quick sex, and almost no one talks about tender and sensual sex.
- Even Christian Gray, not the best, but still iconic for sex culture character, barely waiting for the middle of the timing, declares that gentle sex is not considered sexual intercourse at all, and real men do not make love, but only “fuck”.
In porn, which, unfortunately, is becoming a role model for many men, the concept of “tenderness” also remains undisclosed: each intercourse is more like a fight or sublimation of aggression than sex between two real people. But gentle, slow, careful sex can be no less pleasant than fast and passionate sex.
Cunnilingus
“Not a man’s business”, “humiliating for a real man.” We don’t know exactly who and why for years imposed such beliefs related to oral sex on men, but their times are slowly passing – and this can only be good news.
- It’s hard to imagine that just a few years ago, cunnilingus was a factor that could seriously damage masculinity.
- Sex in general is closely related to the culture of shame. And she, in turn, has a low level of sexual literacy.
The fundamental refusal of some men from oral sex is not always associated with a dislike for them. Some men are squeamish or consider the vagina a “dirty” organ, some – that female pleasure in sex is of no importance, some – that a woman should get an orgasm only from penetrating sex, which means that all other caresses do not make sense.
Compared to blowjobs, cunnilingus doesn’t seem to exist at all. The porn industry illustrates this perfectly – in almost every adult film there are scenes in which a man takes oral sex, but cunnilingus often appears either in the video category of the same name, or in lesbian porn.
At the same time, oral sex can be a pleasure not only for the receiving party. A partner who gives oral sex can also be aroused. From the process itself, from the realization that it gives pleasant sensations to the partner, from her own reaction to affection – and this speaks not only of a high degree of involvement in the process, but also of the man’s understanding of his own desires.
Anal fondling
The buttocks are an incredibly sensitive area of both the female and male body. But for some reason, it is in men that this zone is an unshakable guarantor of their belonging to the “stronger sex”.
A man who feels and recognizes his own desire and pleasure from caresses in this area must certainly doubt his basic normality. In reality, the pleasure that a person receives from caressing any part of the body speaks only of his ability at the physical level to experience pleasant sensations “here” or “there”.
- Social status, sexual orientation, degree of masculinity, or, for example, success in work, does not depend on this in any way.
- Pure physiology: men really have a large number of nerve endings in the anal area. And they not only exist there, but also respond to affection and are directly related to the functioning of the male genital organs.
- Anal stimulation can bring a lot of new, unusual and pleasant sensations to a man, especially if, on an emotional level, you get rid of the feeling that he is doing something wrong.
The main thing is to always remember about safety! Use lubricant, since there is no natural lubrication of this zone, observe hygiene, use gloves for manual stimulation and latex wipes for oral, and also choose only sex toys with a stopper – a wide base that will not allow the object to slip into the rectum and stay there before the arrival of the ambulance team.
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Female domination
The role of the dominant is familiar to men. In our country, with an orientation towards the patriarchal order and many years of experience of male domination, in many respects this picture is perceived as “the norm”.
But sex is generally not the aspect of life in which you need to focus on some generally accepted option. The only thing that limits sexual behavior is the criminal code and people’s own ideas about sex.
According to research, the vast majority of men admit that they would like women to show more initiative.